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Today I Said I Love You


So today I said I love you. 

This relates to an earlier post I wrote. A child came up to me recently and declared her love for me. I felt my insides stiffen. No really. What do I do with love? And do I have to give it back? How does this work? Wait, does she have to earn it first? Has it been long enough? 


These questions may sound strange but the way I have thought about love since childhood has been strange. The idea of love being something that is freely given, perhaps never retracted? Mind blowing! Three years ago God ministered to me BW42. God is love. God has made us, so we are made by love. The Trinity was involved in the process, so we are made with love. God has made us for love, as people who are designed to receive love. AND God  has made us to love! BW42: By love, with love, for love, 




How beautiful to be created to love other people! But the work I have had to do over the last few years to have capacity to love has been a doozy! And the work is still going on.  

Back to me saying I love you. I was mindful of the fact that the child is known for saying things in order to manipulate, but I purposed in my heart to tell her I love you. I wanted to pick a moment that had nothing to do with accomplishing anything. I also didn't want to pair it with a consequence. Then I forgot... but the Holy Spirit reminded me. Seemingly out of the blue, I blurted out "guess what?! I love you!" I actually don't remember her response, and it doesn't matter. I just know I should strive to say it again!

Giving love, receiving love, these are amazing things. May my heart and your heart expand to both receive and give more love! 



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