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When Life Sucks Part ???


When life sucks, don’t forget to do things you love. Sometimes life itself, or someone in it, is kicking us until we gasp for air. When there is a brief intermission, if you’re like me, you try to handle business. Maybe you sure yourself up for the next attack, maybe you try to hide or lay low. And all of this may be necessary. But do something you love. 

The thing about abuse is that it steals from you. Not just the obvious hopes and dreams for the future, but your self confidence. Your love for self. Your confidence in your worth. Doing something you love can be a great reminder of who you are, your value, your worth, and the fact that you deserve better. 


Today I wore something I love. I went to dance class, which I love. I drove down Blue Ridge Mountain Parkway, which I love. I went to the Dollar Tree, which I love. I got candy that I love. I bought myself flowers, which I love. I chose the cashier whose convo I loved last time. I sat outside in the midst of apple blossoms, which I loved. I watched Hamilton, which I love. I spoke with a great friend and we prayed, which I love. And then I did my hair. Oh how I love when my hair is freshly done. You can’t tell me nothing. 


Maybe you can’t have a whole day of what you love, but do something, especially when life sucks. 

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