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Marriage is Not Uno It's Spades Part 5: Commitment Issues

 



In Uno you may form a flexible allegiance. You my save that Draw Four and those Draw Two's for a time. You may even Reverse the play in order to protect one elbow mate. But at the end of the day, the commitment in Uno is to yourself and yourself only.

 In the game of Spades there is a commitment that is established for the entire game. That commitment to your partner has to weather both the ups and the downs, the setting and the being set. The commitment supersedes the frustration of your partner's inattention or careless mistakes. The decision to partner is a decision to commit. 


Marriage is Spades, it's not Uno. The partnership has to weather storms. Beware when your allegiance begins to switch up in your marriage. Return to your original commitments. Marriage isn't Uno, so you must look beyond yourself. In what ways have you noticed your allegiance shifting from your spouse to someone or something else? If there is no allegiance shifting, how can you celebrate your partnership and the unity you experience?





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