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Marriage Isn’t Kickball




 I love playing kickball. Maybe it’s because I’m a big kid at heart. We know that a lot of a team’s success in kickball is due to the make up of their team. The team doesn’t have to all be outstanding at pitching, catching, throwing, kicking, or running. Really you just need some players to have some of those skills. The rest is strategy. Who pitches? Who kicks after who? Who plays outfield and who plays home plate? 

Marriage definitely requires strategy and it definitely requires a team effort. But unlike kickball, the team shouldn’t be comprised of forced picks. In marriage your teammate is hopefully a choice of commitment and not performance. In marriage hopefully your choice was at least at one time highly esteemed and not mere settling. Perhaps in kickball one may shout, "I should have never chosen you"! But never should those words be uttered in marriage. It’s not a game. It’s not win or lose bragging rights, it’s crush or build souls. 

It may be easy to question our choices when every move seems like a loss- but only poor sports quit the game early. Marriage isn’t kickball, but if your strategy isn’t working change THAT up before you seek out more drastic measures. 

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