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But How Do You Speak to Yourself?



I recently joined the world of those who wear glasses, but I frequently forget to wear them! This morning as I was getting ready to leave the house, I began chastising myself to go find the glasses and put them on. (I took them off for a nap and had to put them on again while writing this!) This morning I listened in to the tone at which I was addressing myself. True the glasses did cost money, and were not purchased for me to just leave laying around - but why the tone and the energy?

 I have been listening to Atlas of the Heart by Brene Brown and she recommended taking this quiz. Brown says the way we speak to ourselves has implications on how we treat others. I took the quiz and it revealed what I suspected, my compassion levels for myself are too low. I know I have improved in this area, bestowing the gift of rest and limits upon myself. And I have seen my growth transfer to how I interact with others. But as the morning revealed and the quiz confirmed, I have a ways to go. How about you? Are you a compassionate person? With yourself?






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