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Marriage Is Not Uno, It’s Spades: Part 1


 I have no idea how long this series is going to be, but it has been on my mind for over a month. Feel free to add your observations in the comments.  You don’t have to be married, and if you don’t know spades, get in on these Uno posts! 


I think it’s necessary to begin with a description of Uno, a game I love. I love winning and I win well at Uno. But Uno is every man for himself. Sometimes you consider your neighbor and you lay down a Reverse, but eventually Draw 2, Draw 4, (Draw whatever if you play house rules) comes and you attack your neighbor. Why do you attack them? Because you want to win! In marriage your spouse is your neighbor. When you attack your spouse, you lose. Why? Marriage is not Uno. It is not every man for himself, no matter how nitty gritty things seem to get. 


Do you play that you can go out on a Draw 4? I love going out with a bang! Uno anyone?

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